Podcast: The High Performance
Published Date:
Fri, 17 Nov 2023 01:25:54 GMT
Duration:
13:38
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Returning to the episode with author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, Mark Manson, Jake reflects on the lessons he still thinks about daily.
Mark suggested parents should not be telling their children they can do anything, as it may set them up for a fall in the future. Telling them they’re going to be brilliant will ensure they don’t build their resilience muscle. Jake shares with Damian how after this episode he now talks to his children differently.
They also reflect on why comparison is killer and Mark’s experience writing Will Smith’s book. And they discuss how saying no makes you a more attractive prospect.
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In this episode, Jake revisits the conversation with Mark Manson, author of "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck," to reflect on lessons that still resonate with him.
1. **Praising Effort, Not Identity**: Mark emphasizes praising children for their effort rather than their innate abilities. This helps build resilience and teaches them that success comes from hard work and dedication, not just natural talent. Jake shares how he has changed his approach with his own children, focusing on commending their efforts and specific actions rather than their overall abilities.
2. **The Trap of Comparison**: Mark highlights the detrimental impact of comparing oneself to others, leading to feelings of inadequacy and dissatisfaction. He shares the example of Dave Mustaine, the former lead guitarist of Metallica, who despite achieving immense success with his band Megadeth, still felt like a failure due to comparisons with Metallica's greater achievements. Jake emphasizes the importance of avoiding comparisons and finding one's own path to success and fulfillment.
3. **The Freedom of Saying No**: Mark discusses the power of saying no and setting boundaries. He explains that being willing to let go of certain commitments or opportunities can paradoxically make one more attractive and respected. Jake acknowledges his struggle with saying no due to fear of missing out or disappointing others. He recognizes the need to establish boundaries and prioritize what truly matters, such as spending time with his children.
The episode concludes with a reminder that Jake and Damien are also on a journey of learning and implementing these lessons in their own lives. They encourage listeners to explore the full episode with Mark Manson and delve into the 200+ episodes of the High Performance Podcast, each offering valuable insights and lessons for personal and professional growth.