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Barry Hearn joined the podcast in 2022 to share his 10 life lessons. In this episode, Damian shares with Jake the top 3 lessons he learnt from Barry; the ones he still uses in his everyday life. These 3 lessons include, "it’s better to be lucky than good looking", "life is not changed by sitting on the sofa" and "life is going to end in tears, so you might as well make the most of it".
Jake and Damian reflect on these lessons and the way Barry’s version of high performance can be utilised in our daily lives.
Episodes mentioned:
Barry Hearn: https://pod.fo/e/157c60
Books mentioned:
The Luck Factor by Richard Wiseman: https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-luck-factor-the-scientific-study-of-the-lucky-mind-richard-wiseman/11145449?ean=9781511376839
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In this episode, Professor Damian Hughes shares his key takeaways from Barry Hearn's appearance on the podcast. Hearn imparted 10 life lessons, three of which resonated deeply with Hughes:
1. "It's better to be lucky than good-looking": This proverb emphasizes the role of luck in life's successes, highlighting the need to recognize and seize opportunities when they arise.
2. "Life is not changed by sitting on the sofa": Hearn stresses the importance of taking control over one's life and actively pursuing goals. He encourages individuals to seek out opportunities, engage in activities, and avoid complacency.
3. "Life is going to end in tears, so you might as well make the most of it": This poignant statement encapsulates Hearn's optimistic outlook on life. He urges people to embrace optimism, see the positive side, and make the most of every moment, acknowledging that life's inevitable end should not deter one from living fully.
Hughes and Jake, the host, reflect on these lessons and explore how Hearn's philosophy of high performance can be applied to daily life. They discuss the significance of perseverance, resilience, and the ability to find opportunities amidst challenges.
The episode also highlights the importance of learning from failures and setbacks, using them as stepping stones for growth and improvement. Hearn's emphasis on optimism is seen as a common thread among high performers, who possess the ability to find the positives and maintain a hopeful outlook even in difficult situations.
Hughes and Jake conclude the episode by encouraging listeners to explore the full conversation with Barry Hearn in Episode 168 of the High Performance podcast. They also promote the High Performance app, where listeners can access all episodes and additional exclusive content.
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[02:06.600 -> 02:08.520] See Mint Mobile for details. [02:12.960 -> 02:14.800] Hi there, you're listening to High Performance [02:14.800 -> 02:17.160] with Jay Comfrey and Professor Damien Hughes. [02:17.160 -> 02:18.820] Now there's two things that I know. [02:18.820 -> 02:21.440] The first one is that sometimes you haven't got [02:21.440 -> 02:23.480] an hour or an hour and a half to spend listening [02:23.480 -> 02:30.400] to one of our episodes. And the other thing is that there are over 200 amazing high-performance conversations [02:30.400 -> 02:31.400] in our archives. [02:31.400 -> 02:36.800] And I know that many of you have come to this podcast recently and you don't know the gold, [02:36.800 -> 02:39.180] the life lessons, the magic that exists. [02:39.180 -> 02:43.880] So what we like to do is, myself and Damien, take it in turns to handpick some episodes [02:43.880 -> 02:46.320] that have [02:44.140 -> 02:48.340] really sort of resonated with us, things [02:46.320 -> 02:51.760] that we feel we've grown and learned [02:48.340 -> 02:53.680] from, and today, Professor Damien Hughes, you [02:51.760 -> 02:55.360] are in the hot seat. I'm looking forward [02:53.680 -> 02:58.360] to this one, Jake. The episode that I [02:55.360 -> 03:00.680] wanted to talk about, the origins of it [02:58.360 -> 03:03.240] are worth sharing, that I was, I love [03:00.680 -> 03:05.000] reading, I'm one of those bookworms that Rwy'n hoffi ymdrech, ac rwy'n un o'r gwythwyr ychydig sy'n hoffi ychydig o fwythau. [03:05.000 -> 03:10.000] Roeddwn i'n ymdrech ar y stori byw o Barry Hearns, [03:10.000 -> 03:14.000] ac mae'r gyfrifiad yma yn ystod y 10 ysgolion sydd wedi'i ddysgu trwy fywyd. [03:14.000 -> 03:16.000] Ac fel roeddwn i'n ymdrech arno, rwy'n cofio'r text i chi, [03:16.000 -> 03:21.000] yn dweud bod y ffyrdd oedd y gynulleidfa'n gallu bod yn ymgyrch gyda ni ar y podcast, [03:21.000 -> 03:23.000] lle dydyn ni ddim yn rhaid i ni wneud unrhyw waith, [03:23.000 -> 03:25.360] mae'n rhaid i ni gofyn iddyn nhw ddewis y 10 [03:25.360 -> 03:30.320] ysgolion a dydyn ni'n seilio yno a chroesawu. Felly roeddwn i'n ei arwain ato i chi a dweud, [03:30.320 -> 03:34.080] wel, gadewch i ni weld a allwn ni ei gael arno. Ac yna, ychydig mlynedd yn ôl, roedden ni'n seilio [03:34.080 -> 03:39.760] ar y man ei hun. Ac roedd y ysgolion y ddewiswyd i ni yn ddiddorol, felly dyna'r hyn [03:39.760 -> 03:43.040] sy'n dod allan i mi, ac roeddwn i'n meddwl bod yn ddiddorol i ni ddweud ychydig o'r rhain. [03:43.040 -> 03:47.300] Felly beth wnaethoch chi wneud? A oes gennych chi ddewis ychydig o'r ysgolion wahanol, neu achos y byddwn ni'n ei chyflwyno nifer o'r rhain? Beth ydych chi'n meddwl? It stands out for me and I thought it's worth was just exploring a few of them So what have you done? Have you picked a few of the different lessons or do you want us to hear a bunch of them? [03:47.300 -> 03:47.860] What are you thinking? [03:47.860 -> 03:53.560] Yeah, what I was thinking was if I share the ones that stood out for me we can sort of talk about it in more detail [03:53.780 -> 03:58.560] So his first lesson if you remember when he sat there and he spoke in his sort of growly [03:59.080 -> 04:00.840] East London [04:00.840 -> 04:05.780] Accent he told us that he believes that it's better to be lucky than good-looking [04:07.780 -> 04:11.540] So your first rule for life is it's better to be born lucky [04:12.120 -> 04:18.140] Than good-looking. Well, it's so true. Yeah, I mean because without that little bit of luck [04:18.940 -> 04:23.960] And no matter what you might think how bright you are or how well qualified you are [04:24.440 -> 04:29.040] We all need that bit of luck. We need to now to take advantage of that. [04:29.040 -> 04:33.440] So why did that stand out to you particularly? Well one of the things that [04:33.440 -> 04:38.360] we both often really careful of on the podcast is survivorship bias where [04:38.360 -> 04:42.240] people that, so you can always tell the people that haven't listened to the [04:42.240 -> 04:45.520] podcast because they'll say to you, oh it's about successful people tellingwneud â phobl gyffrous yn dweud wrthyf [04:45.520 -> 04:47.000] pam oeddent yn gyffrous. [04:47.000 -> 04:50.560] Ac mae'r realiaeth yw bod y mwyaf mwyaf o'n gwestiynion [04:50.560 -> 04:54.560] yn aml yn gwybod y rôl o ffocs neu llawdfa [04:54.560 -> 04:55.320] yn eu gyrfa. [04:55.320 -> 04:57.920] Gwybod, dydyn ni ddim yn controli pan fyddwn ni'n dod, [04:57.920 -> 04:59.200] y rhai o'r rhain sy'n mynd yn ôl, [04:59.200 -> 05:00.800] y llwybr y byddwn ni'n groesu, [05:00.800 -> 05:02.480] mae'r holl ffactorau hynny'n ymdrechol [05:02.480 -> 05:04.160] cyn i ni ddod. [05:04.160 -> 05:07.740] Ac rwy'n credu, pan fyddwch chi'n clywed rhywun yn agnoddio hynny, mae'n [05:07.740 -> 05:11.100] agor y ffordd i ddweud i chi fod hwn yn rhywun o hylwedd, [05:11.100 -> 05:14.240] mae hwn yn rhywun o ddealltwriaeth, ac mae'n rhywun [05:14.240 -> 05:17.280] nad yw'n cyd-drech ar ei hunain. Rwy'n credu [05:17.280 -> 05:20.400] bod y ffaith bod Barry yn gallu siarad am rôl ffoc. [05:20.400 -> 05:22.880] Mae'n cael ei gynhyrchu gan un o fy mhreifriadwyr ffriar, [05:22.880 -> 05:25.000] un o'r ffyrwyr ffriar yw un o'r dyrwyr yn ymwneud â Richard Wiseman, sy'n ffysiolog aris gan un o fy mhoblfyrwyr fwyaf oedd, un o'r ddarlithwyr, Dr Richard Wiseman, [05:25.000 -> 05:29.000] sy'n ffysiolog ar y Brifysgol Hertfordshire. [05:29.000 -> 05:45.360] A wrthiodd eich llyfr bwysig arno, yw'r ffactor o edrych, lle dweud y bydd pobl ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod yn ddod in ddod in ddod in ddod in ddod in ddau i ddechrau arloesu cyfleoedd yn hytrach na thretau, neu gweithgareddau yn hytrach na [05:45.360 -> 05:51.920] cyfansoddiadau. I mi, Barry yw'n rôl fawr i unrhyw un sy'n credu eu bod yn ddod yn ffordd [05:51.920 -> 05:57.040] ac yna yw'n gweld cyfleoedd, yn ei ben yw'n fwrw a mewn bywyd ei gynhyrch. [05:57.040 -> 06:00.720] Mae'n dda. Beth oedd y peth nesaf y gafodd ei ddweud i'r proffesor? [06:01.520 -> 06:06.700] Wel, dyma'r adroddiad y bydd unrhyw ddadwyr o blant ifanc yn eich Professor's ears peaked. Well this is a [06:03.600 -> 06:09.600] message that any parent of young children [06:06.700 -> 06:11.760] will probably have echoed themselves but [06:09.600 -> 06:14.080] hearing Barry Hearn tell us that we need [06:11.760 -> 06:17.440] to take control over our life and our [06:14.080 -> 06:19.600] circumstances and our fate is probably [06:17.440 -> 06:23.080] more effective than our words. Let's [06:19.600 -> 06:25.440] listen to it. Well it's a little bit like [06:23.080 -> 06:25.800] the work ethic one really, but sitting on the sofa [06:25.800 -> 06:30.120] comes in different stages. You can start off by being lazy. What worries me today, [06:30.120 -> 06:34.880] especially amongst some of the youngsters that I see, is that there's [06:34.880 -> 06:40.560] not enough get up and go. And a lot of that is society's problem. It's not the [06:40.560 -> 06:46.480] the kids weren't born like that. You know, maybe they didn't get enough parental guidance, maybe. [06:46.480 -> 06:51.200] Maybe they didn't get enough activities at school, maybe. [06:51.200 -> 06:54.800] Maybe they got in with the wrong crowd who'd failed earlier, I don't know. [06:54.800 -> 07:00.240] But for whatever reason is, we need to get people motivated to do something. [07:00.240 -> 07:04.720] If the facilities don't exist, I'm a big believer in government spending on sport, [07:04.720 -> 07:06.640] which I don't think is anywhere near enough. [07:06.640 -> 07:12.000] I think we should be spending the same amount of money on sport as we send on defence. [07:12.000 -> 07:17.040] There's a percentage of gross national product that we allocate to overseas good causes, [07:17.040 -> 07:20.880] and yet we've got 30% of children undernourished in this country. [07:20.880 -> 07:26.440] All these things I can't live with, I don't see the [07:23.800 -> 07:29.720] rationale to it. But when you look at [07:26.440 -> 07:32.400] kids, it is depressing sometimes and it [07:29.720 -> 07:35.960] may be not their fault but it's very easy [07:32.400 -> 07:38.200] to get in that rut, gang culture, peer [07:35.960 -> 07:40.000] pressure against kids. We talk about [07:38.200 -> 07:43.080] carrying knives and things like that, you [07:40.000 -> 07:45.240] know, hardly ever did I see a knife growing [07:43.080 -> 07:47.520] up. See a lot of people, we were [07:44.800 -> 07:49.160] tough guys, a lot of people could fight, but [07:47.520 -> 07:50.920] they weren't, you know, there wasn't the [07:49.160 -> 07:53.120] drugs and all that sort of stuff as much [07:50.920 -> 07:54.640] as there is today. And this is an issue [07:53.120 -> 07:56.560] that's got to be dealt with because [07:54.640 -> 07:58.960] these kids got... if you take away someone's [07:56.560 -> 08:00.960] dream, I had a dream, you had a dream, we all had [07:58.960 -> 08:03.160] dreams when we were growing up. What [08:00.960 -> 08:06.120] worries me about today's society is not [08:03.160 -> 08:05.000] enough kids have a dream. So this comes Mae'n rhaid i mi gofyn am y cymdeithasau heddiw, nid yw'n ennill i'r plant gael ddrew. [08:05.000 -> 08:09.000] Felly mae'r cwmni hwn yn dod yn ôl i'r teimlad cyffredin ar y podcast hon, [08:09.000 -> 08:12.000] sef y gallu i'w ymdrechu gyda'r set-back, y gallu i'w ymdrechu gyda'r ffailiad, [08:12.000 -> 08:14.000] y pwysigrwydd o ddweud y gwaith. [08:14.000 -> 08:18.000] Ie, felly os ydych chi'n cofio, Jake, pan ddweud wrthym yn eithaf gallan, [08:18.000 -> 08:22.000] y stori ar y Christmas Eve, pan roedd ei gwaith yn ymwneud â phrofiadau'n ddifrifol [08:22.000 -> 08:25.360] ac roedd yn edrych ar gyfer ymddiogaeth ac roedd yn mynd i'r [08:25.360 -> 08:31.120] gweithdai hotell yn ymddygiad i geisio rhedeg ei busnes a'i ddysgrifio yn ffordd [08:31.120 -> 08:36.480] hyfrydol o'r ffordd o'i gyrraedd i'r stasiwn a'r llwybr yn mynd i'r ffordd a'r cyfrifiad [08:36.480 -> 08:40.960] gyda'i ffrontwyr y byddai'n rhaid iddo gael eu gadael yn ôl ac yn ddiweddarach yn mynd i'r [08:40.960 -> 08:47.040] ffordd a'i gyrraedd yn fwy anodd. Ond mae'n dweud yna am sut yw'r fynydd hwn wedi dod times were going to get a little bit tougher. But he then says about how this guy came up with not money for sponsorship, [08:47.040 -> 08:50.000] but how he could offer hotel rooms and he could sell them on, [08:50.000 -> 08:51.200] and that saved his business. [08:53.200 -> 08:56.800] Four o'clock, I got off the train at Slough and it started to snow. [08:56.800 -> 08:58.480] It was like a Dickens novel. [08:58.480 -> 09:01.120] Walked into it, my heart wasn't in it at all. [09:01.120 -> 09:02.920] Got in to see Mr Hearn, he said, [09:02.920 -> 09:04.640] what have you got for me? I said, [09:04.640 -> 09:05.360] and I started the sales pitch, which I'm generally Mr Hearn, he said, what have you got for me? I said, and I started [09:05.360 -> 09:09.720] the sales pitch, which I'm generally quite good at, but this was awful. In my heart, [09:09.720 -> 09:15.640] it was, I'd had too much of a battering, I'd lost too many deals, finished it in 20 minutes, [09:15.640 -> 09:19.920] quite honestly, I was an embarrassment to be there. And he looked at me and he said, [09:19.920 -> 09:26.800] it's Christmas Eve, it's 4.30 Christmas Eve. I went, I know. He said, you must really need this. [09:26.800 -> 09:28.600] And I said, tell the truth. [09:28.600 -> 09:29.580] I said, I do. [09:29.580 -> 09:30.880] I really need this. [09:30.880 -> 09:33.360] And he said, well, I've got no money. [09:33.360 -> 09:34.840] And that was like someone kicked me [09:34.840 -> 09:36.560] straight in the lower regions. [09:36.560 -> 09:39.240] I thought, well, that's it. [09:39.240 -> 09:40.680] I can't do more than I've done. [09:40.680 -> 09:42.200] I've given it the best shot. [09:42.200 -> 09:46.160] I've had two years of absolutely nightmares [09:46.160 -> 09:50.960] and I've shouldered it on my own. Probably a mistake. So I just thought, well I'll go [09:50.960 -> 09:55.440] out with some class and I said, well Mr Hearn, thank you very much for seeing me, I appreciate [09:55.440 -> 10:00.300] it's Christmas Eve, let me wish you and your family a happy new year. I turn around to [10:00.300 -> 10:05.280] walk out the door and he said, [10:02.280 -> 10:07.160] but I've got hotel rooms. I said, what [10:05.280 -> 10:09.080] does that mean? He said, well I've got no [10:07.160 -> 10:11.240] money. I said, no I understood that bit. [10:09.080 -> 10:13.400] He said, but I've got hotel rooms, he said. [10:11.240 -> 10:16.120] And at that time Trust House, Fotiad, [10:13.400 -> 10:18.880] Sandy Lane in Barbados, Plaza Athenea in [10:16.120 -> 10:21.280] Paris, Waldorf in London, they're great [10:18.880 -> 10:23.240] hotels. He said, I will give you three hundred [10:21.280 -> 10:25.920] thousand pound of hotel rooms but no [10:23.240 -> 10:25.640] money for this sponsorship. [10:25.640 -> 10:27.280] And we shook hands. [10:27.280 -> 10:30.360] I left, by the time I got, walked back to Slough Station, [10:30.360 -> 10:32.880] I'd sold the lot to mates of mine in the travel business [10:32.880 -> 10:35.840] at a 40% discount for cash. [10:35.840 -> 10:37.560] I got 180 grand. [10:37.560 -> 10:41.880] That 180 grand saved my life, saved my business, [10:41.880 -> 10:43.520] and saved me, more importantly, [10:43.520 -> 10:46.940] showed me that you're never [10:44.940 -> 10:48.820] completely finished. You know while you're [10:46.940 -> 10:51.460] breathing there's fighting the old dog. [10:48.820 -> 10:54.040] That was a 12-round knockout for me in my [10:51.460 -> 10:55.780] world but it taught me lots of things. [10:54.040 -> 10:58.900] It taught me that when you're in [10:55.780 -> 11:00.900] situations like that the situation will [10:58.900 -> 11:03.700] define you as a person as well as you [11:00.900 -> 11:06.100] will define the situation and you learn [11:03.700 -> 11:06.880] more about yourself in [11:04.880 -> 11:09.240] adversity than you'll ever learn in [11:06.880 -> 11:11.920] success. That's a great example of [11:09.240 -> 11:14.880] somebody that's just willing to keep [11:11.920 -> 11:17.240] finding a way that things don't happen [11:14.880 -> 11:20.120] in that linear straight line but he's [11:17.240 -> 11:22.640] going to explore different avenues, different [11:20.120 -> 11:24.280] possibilities and I think that applies [11:22.640 -> 11:26.400] to all of us whatever it is whether it's [11:24.280 -> 11:27.720] coming off the back of exam results that haven't gone well whether it's a [11:27.720 -> 11:31.840] business deal that we haven't got or we find ourselves in a bit of a coldly sack [11:31.840 -> 11:37.760] in our career Barry Hearne talks to us about the power of just keep trying keep [11:37.760 -> 11:41.520] putting yourself out there keep being curious. He's like a dog with a bone [11:41.520 -> 11:45.260] isn't he Barry and the ability to just keep going to think that tomorrow [11:45.440 -> 11:49.320] It might be the day that everything changes go and give us the final one [11:49.480 -> 11:53.320] Well, there's two I'm gonna combine because they both come back to the same point [11:53.320 -> 11:56.120] One is the pressure is only felt by those who fail [11:56.680 -> 12:00.160] But then the one where he says that life is gonna end in tears [12:00.160 -> 12:02.160] You might as well smile for the rest of it [12:02.400 -> 12:07.340] They both speak at the heart of an optimist an eternal optimist [12:07.340 -> 12:13.680] Somebody that sees the best sees the bright light even on the darkest of days. That's let's listen to him [12:13.680 -> 12:15.680] Talk about the power of optimism [12:17.880 -> 12:21.920] Let's talk about failure because lesson number four is [12:22.520 -> 12:25.360] Pressure is only felt by those that fail. [12:25.360 -> 12:30.360] What that really means is that people make excuses for their own [12:30.360 -> 12:38.320] weaknesses. We've all got weaknesses but it's very tiresome for me to hear people [12:38.320 -> 12:43.920] say, oh yeah I couldn't handle it or yeah I'd rather keep my mouth shut. Firstly I [12:43.920 -> 12:48.360] would never tell anyone if that was the case with me because that's something inside me to [12:48.360 -> 12:52.840] sort out and secondly it's probably lacking appreciation that we've all got [12:52.840 -> 12:57.640] an opportunity in life to do something and it won't always go right so don't [12:57.640 -> 13:01.480] start crying around me go out and do something about it and if you do fail [13:01.480 -> 13:07.600] make it one time you fail and use that as a springboard to succeed. [13:10.600 -> 13:13.600] We're going through the motions of waiting to die. [13:15.000 -> 13:16.600] So deal with it. [13:17.600 -> 13:23.400] And you do know, I think life begins with smiles and ends with tears, doesn't it? [13:23.800 -> 13:25.680] That's one thing you can't change. [13:25.680 -> 13:26.800] So there's no point in... [13:26.800 -> 13:30.160] When you can't affect anything, don't give it a moment's thought, [13:30.160 -> 13:32.080] because that moment is a wasted thought, [13:32.080 -> 13:33.600] and you could be thinking about something else. [13:34.320 -> 13:36.640] Now, this is a brilliant way to end this short episode, [13:36.640 -> 13:37.920] because people say, [13:38.480 -> 13:40.960] give me one thing that combines all the people [13:40.960 -> 13:42.720] that have been on the High Performance podcast, [13:42.720 -> 13:43.760] and what they're really asking is, [13:43.760 -> 13:45.220] give me a shortcut to finding have been on the high performance podcast and what they're really asking is give me a shortcut to [13:47.820 -> 13:48.580] finding my own version of high performance and we both agree that [13:51.180 -> 13:52.180] Optimism is that thing? It's they all [13:58.900 -> 13:59.420] Optimism optimism is that thing the people who sit and have these conversations with us have that ability to just [14:03.220 -> 14:07.160] Find the positives. Yeah, definitely and they're prepared to gamble They just keep seeing that the next meeting will be the one that changes my life y cyfleoedd. Iawn, yn amlwg. Ac maen nhw'n barod i gampio. Mae'n gweld y bydd y cyfarfod nesaf yn newid fy bywyd. [14:07.160 -> 14:10.960] Mae'r cwrs nesaf yn y peth a fydd yn gynhyrchu'r ffyrdd o ffyrdd. [14:10.960 -> 14:13.800] Y person nesaf efallai yw'r gwledydd busnesa [14:13.800 -> 14:16.720] y gallwn ni fynd i gyfrifio â'r byd. [14:16.720 -> 14:20.560] Mae'n dod yn ystod y sefyllfa'n agored i'r moddau, [14:20.560 -> 14:23.840] yn hytrach na'n clywed, i'r eangau. [14:23.840 -> 14:27.600] Ac felly, i ddod yn agos i'n clywed, nad ydym yn ychydig ar ein cyflog. probabilities rather than closed to probabilities. And so just to prove to our listeners that we're not high on our own supply, [14:27.600 -> 14:32.840] I think the final point I'd like to leave them with is when we asked Barry to give his assessment on us as [14:32.960 -> 14:34.960] interviewers and they described us as [14:35.160 -> 14:37.160] distinctly average. [14:37.280 -> 14:39.640] Perfect. And he's quite right. [14:40.520 -> 14:46.620] It was a great conversation. I mean that clip where he says I'm unbeatable you can dim me you can damage me [14:46.960 -> 14:51.160] You're never gonna beat me if you would like to hear the full conversation with Barry Hearn [14:51.400 -> 14:56.240] OBE a man who made his fortune in snooker darts pool and golf [14:57.120 -> 14:59.440] Then all you need to do is track down episode [15:00.480 -> 15:08.080] 168 of the high-performance podcast to find the rest of those lessons that he believes has carried him all the way through life [15:08.640 -> 15:14.760] Damien really enjoyed that. Yeah, I did as well as I love doing these kind of retrospective looks into the archive [15:14.960 -> 15:20.000] They're great. 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